Every person goes through many ups and downs throughout their twenties. From trying to decide which career path to take, to forming important, lasting relationships with friends and partners, there is a lot to learn. I’m not quite at that 30 milestone yet, but I’m getting closer each day. And as I do, I more frequently find myself reflecting on how different my life is today versus the day I turned twenty. It’s a little hard to believe!
Here are some important lessons that every twenty-something should consider as they enter adulthood:
- If you work hard enough and don’t stop until you meet your goals, you will eventually get there—or to a different, just as worthy, place.
- To have friends you must be a friend first. The friends who stand by your side through the years are priceless.
- You are never too old to be a kid and jump into a colored ball pit.
- Surround yourself with people who make you feel good and motivate you to do better and be better. Keep people out of your life who bring you down.
- Don’t beat yourself up over mistakes or regrets in your life. After all, some of those “mistakes” could lead to something even better down the road. I try to approach everything with a “no regrets” mindset—I quite literally ask myself “Will I regret it if I do/don’t do this?” Just the simple act of asking gives me so much more clarity when making decisions.
- Be independent and do not rely on someone else to make you happy. You will eventually have a much stronger and healthier relationship with your significant other if you highly value your own wellbeing and happiness.
- Create the actual life that you want to have. Stop telling yourself you can’t, and stop settling for less than what you know you could achieve, especially if you know it would lead you to a happier and more satisfied life.
- Step outside of your own comfort zone and go after something you want.
- If you don’t like something about your life, it is your own responsibility to change it.
- Be grateful for what you have in life. Even on the worst days, there is something to be grateful for. Make it a practice to write down one positive thing that happened, no matter how small, each day.
- If you do not have enough cash to pay for it, you cannot afford it. Put the credit card down.
- Pay your bills on time, change your oil regularly, file your taxes on time, and be sure to floss. Sometimes, acting like a grownup is so worth it.
- Be quick to forgive. Don’t hold grudges.
- Everyone has a story that makes up who they are. Respect differences, because you can learn something new from everyone you meet.
- Admit when you’re wrong and take full accountability for your mistakes.