|This is something that took me years to learn.|
Now, I’m making choices that are better for my body, mind, and soul. For example, I used to constantly compare myself to others and my main goal in life was to make everyone else happy. I haven’t completely been able to banish the comparisons, but I’m more mindful about them now. And while I want everyone to be happy, I’ve learned that I shouldn’t always sacrifice my own happiness and well being to avoid disappointing others. In short, I am far more self-aware and I value myself so much more than I ever did before.
This shift didn’t just happen overnight—it was a long process and involved a lot of individual choices. Here are some of the choices I’ve made along the way:
|Being happy and healthy means eating right.|
- Finding a workout that I love and committing to it regularly.
- Drinking in moderation.
- Loving my body for all the hard work it does for me—whether or not I’ve got the perfect flat abs.
- Making “me” time.
- Making time for friends (apart from my significant other).
- Cooking healthy meals at home, regularly.
- Being mindful and calling myself out for ignoring what my body and mind need.
- Checking up on my health—doctor’s visits, breast checks, etc.
- Admitting when I need a mental health day and seeking help when I feel overwhelmed or depressed.
- Committing to living a healthy lifestyle rather than extreme dieting.
- Spending fewer hours in front of a screen. Reading, writing, or playing with the dog instead of watching another episode of “Friends.”
- Being OK with indulging—in moderation. One cookie is NOT something to feel bad about. Twenty cookies is a different story.
- Paying attention to what’s in my food, drinks, makeup, and even hair dye—and avoiding harmful chemicals.
- Staying home when I’m sick instead of suffering through the day (and making others miserable, too).
- Going outside at least once every day.
- Letting the little things go rather than allowing them to cause problems.
- Allowing myself to be a human being—I will make mistakes, and that is ok. Life is about finding balance, losing it, and then finding it again. Over and over.